When we are aware of how are energy mixes and matches with the fields of others, and the patterns we carry that govern that exchange we can exponentially improve our relationships. Currently I am retaking the Energetics of Relationship course with Chloe Wordsworth and reminded about one of my favorite repatternings Energy Exchange repatterning. The underlying principle is that there are 3 levels of energy exchange together with stages of relationship evolution.
For the REACTION EXCHANGE think of that family reunion or gathering where not much needed to be said for a certain relative to react like a firecracker. Reaction exchanges are big hits of cause and effect. Its the POW POW of violent cartoons. No one is listening, taking the time to understand what is happening, love and kindness are limited as everyone is being reactive, If this describes your work place or family it can be a destructive environment that sucks all of your energy. You probably don’t look forward to going to work. Addressing problems can feel hopeless and growth is definitely limited. Yuk.
In relationship with others, when we are civil and polite much of our energy is taken up with something called TRANSACTION exchange. We see this all of the time. When you go to meeting with new business clients, or meet a new sales rep at your company, or when you join a new club or interest group chances are you will witness and experience transaction exchange energy. Everyone keeps their cards close to their chest, and carefully decide what energies to share or not and how much. This is also the energy of protectionism. We protect ourselves from absorbing certain frequencies of others – much like avoiding the smokers in the room. This kind of exchange is great until we get to know people a little better and can decide on how much of ourselves to share so that we do not get hurt. However, if this is the only type of exchange we have with our intimate other or close family and friends, we may feel cut off from them and unsupported. Our fields of energy do not expand, and growth is limited.
When we are with someone whose presence cause us to sparkle, come alive and be fully ourselves we are experiencing an INTERACTION energy exchange – the most uplifting of all. The interaction exchange is experienced when our energy is coherent and streaming toward and with the field of energy of another who is also streaming coherent energy. It does not matter if it is a complete stranger or you have been married for 50 years for this to happen. Both individuals in this exchange have an expanded field of energy and as Chloe says they induce a current of love into the relationship circuit and create a field of energy that is magnetic. In the workplace this kind of energy exchange makes for dynamic creative teams of people who are genuine, trusting, high energy and inspiring to work with. Job satisfaction is high even if the work is of a mundane nature. In personal relationships you feel close with another and you can be fully yourself. Your encounters in the world are trusting, friendly, expansive and uplifting.
Be aware of the 3 types of interactions are you experiencing in your family, intimate relationships with friends or in your workplace. Do you have relationships where you can’t help but be reactive and destroy the relationship? Are there people in your life who are distant or aloof that trigger the same pattern in you? With whom do you have the most energized relationship and feel yourself at your best and totally loved? Which patterns would you likely to change or improve? Take good notes as this can bring you to a full awareness of the patterns within you that are ready to transform. Change any relationship pattern in an instant by practicing appreciation of the good qualities of another no matter how difficult to find. Let go of judgement and in conversation do as Steven Covey taught “Seek first to understand – then to be understood”.
With love and light