If the pattern is not resolved we’ll attract other people and circumstances to help us become conscious and aware of it, heal and let it go. Take for example any number of situations you may be experiencing at work. Do you feel heard at meetings in the same way you felt heard or not heard in your family? Do you maintain clear boundaries at work and are your boundaries respected? How do boundaries work in your family and are they similar to those at your work? Do you work in an environment of mutual respect where colleagues appreciate each other, acknowledge each others accomplishments and provide recognition? How is it the same or different than having these needs met in your family?
If you take the position of blaming, or being a victim at work, your family patterns will remain stuck and you may erroneously think that a new job may solve all of your problems. It won’t take long to realize that you will be re-creating them all over again in a new job. What to do?
Awareness is everything. Keep a journal to track your family patterns popping up at work noting the needs that were not met for you. When you feel ready consciously try to create new coherent replacement patterns by setting intentions. Ask yourself ” What do I want instead of these patterns?” Writing out your intention in a journal can help you clarify what it is you really want instead of reacting in a habitual way.
Practice forgiveness and patience for yourself and the people disguised as your family at work will go a long way in adopting the new patterns.
Of course repatterning sessions may also help you to bring the deeper patterns to conscious awareness and a place where you can find resolution. You spend a great deal of time at work and deserve to experience it with confidence, joy, fulfillment and meaning.
With love and light,